This simple assessment looks at nine common characteristics of
more extreme, potentially dangerous relationships.  When 2 or
more of these characteristics are seen together,
there is reason to believe that there is an increased risk to you.

1. Does your partner have a history of assaultive behavior, threats of or attempted homicide or suicide?  Has he/she discussed murder/suicide pacts with you?
2. Is your partner withdrawn or depressed?  Are there particularly stressful life events going on - unemployment, poverty, death of a loved one, job change either demotion or promotion, etc.? 
3. Does he/she have a history of mental illness?
4. Does your partner have weapons or access to weapons?
5. Is your partner obsessed with you?  Does he/she feel they cannot live without you, is socially isolated, feels hopeless about the future without you?
6. Does your partner express rage about you leaving?
7. Is your partner involved with or addicted to drugs and/or alcohol?
8. Is your partner stalking you?  Does he/she harass you?  Does he/she refuse to leave you alone?
9. Is there an escalation in your partner’s threats and/or actual physical violence?
10. Does your partner have access to you?  Does he/she know where you are and how to get to you?
    
    

There isn’t a magic number of “yes” answers
that creates a dangerous situation for you. 

However, these components when found
together do tend to indicate reason for concern. 
In some cases, it takes all nine to create a high risk situation. 
In others, only one or two are sufficient
to believe that you are at risk!!


ALWAYS REMEMBER:  MAKE CHOICES FOR ACTION THAT MAKE YOUR
SAFETY AND THE WELL-BEING OF YOUR CHILDREN THE PRIORITY.


Whether you just need to talk or you are trying to get out of
an abusive relationship, you can call Stepping Stones Agencies'
24-Hour Help Line at 445-4673.